Prepare for the unexpected..

Life isn't always easy.. Smooth sailing isn't always possible.. Just because things have been good doesn't mean that it will continue to be the same for the rest of your life. It is important to understand this and be prepared to handle the tough time. Of course, you shouldn't be missing the joy and happiness of the present moments, especially when things are going in the right direction. But getting ourself prepared to face the varying rhythms of life becomes important to keep ourself moving ahead irrespective of the situations we face.

It works the other way as well. Just because you are going through bad time doesn't mean that your rest of the life is going to be a hell. The climate change, the wind changes its directions, it rains when you don't expect, it becomes cold, it becomes hot.. so as the life.. Expecting the unexpected can help to handle the 'ups and downs' of the life easily.. It also gives more joy when things happen in the right way and reduces the stress when things don't go well since you have 'kind of' expected it..

I always see that people get upset when things suddenly change [including 'me' sometimes]. They get into a horrible state of stress and unable to handle the truth that things aren't the same as what it was few seconds back. They are not prepared. Handling the brighter side of life is always easy. Because when things go well, you automatically be filled with lots of energy, so moving ahead isn't that difficult.

Problem comes when things change in the negative direction. Especially when you haven't expected and not yet prepared for the change. It is always good to have a backup plan as 'what if it doesn't go well..?' But thinking of 'what if' shouldn't be ruining your present moments and eventually force things to go wrong :-D So enjoy the present moments. At the same time, prepare yourself to handle the truth that 'life becomes tough at times'..

More importantly, develop the attitude of concentrating on 'what to do' when tough time comes.. Worrying isn't going to change anything. Fight the hard times. Think what you need to do to bring the things back to normal.. Be flexible to change your plans when things are not going in the way you expect, yet getting to the place where you want to be. Always get to know the multiple routes to the same destination. If one route doesn't work out, try different routes. Have different plans for life. Face and handle the change in the situation.. Of course, you cannot change the destination, but you can change the route according to the situation and still reach your destination..

Remember that life is what we make it.. what we choose to do.. it is absolutely based on the decisions we make. We can choose to fight back the situations or we can choose to get killed by the situations.. Every second of the life demands you to make decision based on the situations.. Always take the decision that favors you, which gets you what you want, which helps you to move further towards your ultimate goal and destiny :)

Come! Lets live the life!! :)

(Re)search within..

Everyone wants to reach some heights [ I'm not talking about vertical height :-) ] in their life.. But not everyone understands or realizes what they are best at.

While some people over-look on their skills and/or ability on something that they are not even good at, there are people who underestimates their real skills and abilities on which they are potentially good at which can take them to the life's greatest heights.Everyone has talents in something.

Identifying the skill in which you are really good at, which can change your life and can make you to get the world's attention.. It is that ability that can bring you whatever you are looking for in your life.. name.. fame.. money.. and what not..!

Lots of people surprise me by saying that they are good for nothing. Come on, gimme a break.. Why are you closing your eyes and saying that it is dark [ If it is a dark night, don't worry, the Sun will raise again in few hours ;-) ]... Open your eyes, there are lots of opportunities in front of you. You are good at what you are destined for. Do a little (re)search within yourself and start rocking the world..

What are you waiting for? THIS is the time!!

Some diversions...

Nowadays I'm into some sort of diversion.. Not able to concentrate properly on anything.. Well, that doesn't mean that I'm in love :-) So don't starts thinking in that line. Something is keeping my mind busy.. bothering me a lot. I cannot really say what exactly is bothering me (my inner sense tells me 'dont say lie..' while typing this statement [grin]) .. But I'm worried about something that is constantly spinning in the back of my mind.

I know that i'm simply passing my times so often without doing anything useful. I'm finding very difficult to bring back my concentration. Might be, writing this post could become 'the break' i'm wanting to bring me back to normal :-) That is one of the reason why I'm writing this :-)

Whenever something is bothering you, you say it aloud. Share it with someone. Discuss about it with a nice friend. Tell it to the nature. Just express it by any means. You will start feeling light hearted. You can see that you are slowly coming out of that stress that have been bothering you. You can feel that you are no longer into that emotional battle. You can see that your mind gets cleared with fresh thoughts. You might even start thinking that whatever was bothering you is silly.. You might even laugh at yourself that 'I just cannot believe that such a silly thing was bothering me'..

Whenever something is bothering, expressing it explicitly can really help to get over it. Instead of keeping it inside your mind and constantly worrying about it, just share it with someone or express it by some means. You can see that you are out of it. You are back to normal :-) Am I??? Well, I have to wait and see ;-)

What seems to be 'little' can light someone's life...

This is one of the incidents that changed the way I live my life... So I thought that its worth writing, though its a bit lengthy one...

It had just been few days since one of the most famous actor's movie got released.. Though I am not a big fan of him, I said 'ok' to go to the movie since all my friends were so much interested to watch it. I took my nephew also with me.. We had good fun at the cost of Rs. 600 (the amount from my side including the ticket charge of Rs. 250 each for myself and my nephew). The movie was good. Though I normally wont prefer spending so much for movie tickets, I didn't mind about that spending (since we had good fun), until I met two elderly women later the same day.

The same day evening, when I was talking to one of my other friend at the roadside closer to my colony, we were interrupted by two elderly women. Both of them were very old. We were four guys standing there, my friend, my two nephews and myself, and chatting just like that. One of those two old women said that 'it had been more than two days since they had food and asked us to help them with some money so that they can buy something to eat'... They also told that they have been walking for a long time to reach their house which was around seven kilometers away from there. They didn't even have energy to walk, but they didn't have any other choice since they couldn't afford to travel in bus.

One of my nephews searched his pocket and gave them a five rupees coin. I felt pity on them and I really wanted to help them as much as I could. I reached out to my wallet and found that I had only one hundred rupees note left along with some changes. So I took hundred rupees and handed the same to her. She first thought that it was a ten rupees note. Since i felt that they both might not be having proper eye sight, I told them that it was a hundred rupees note. Because I didn't want them to get cheated by someone..

They both were very much excited and surprised since they didn't expect that I would give them that much. But what I felt inside was completely different. I was really sad that I couldn't give them more than that. Because I thought that 'this hundred rupees can help them for another two days max, but what will they do after that?'.. Whenever I help someone in their need, I always feel that "their need is addressed temporarily, but what are they going to do after that?" I worry about this especially whenever I see some old man/woman suffering. One of those two women, quickly took my hand and kissed to express her gratitude. Her eyes were filled with tears and she was telling us how she was treated badly by others when asked for help. The moments became bit emotional.

I started feeling bad that just few hours back we enjoyed like anything in cinema theater watching a movie paying Rs.250 per ticket, which I regretted that time. I could have watched the same movie after few weeks for just Rs.30. The money (Rs. 600) I spent on that movie could have helped those two old women to survive for at least few weeks.

More importantly the happiness that I get by helping such people is so much that it cannot be measured or compared with anything else. One side we spend lots of money on something just for fun, without even realizing that there are lots of people out there who are starving even for their 'very basic' needs. What I realized is that, I get much more happiness when I help such people in their need than the happiness that I try to generate by other means like going to cinema etc.

I also realized that I don't even have to restrict the spending on my own personal needs to help such people. It is more than enough if I stop spending on unnecessary things, which I otherwise term as 'lavish and luxurious spending'. This is just my perspective though..

That moment, I decided that I will never spend such big amount for watching movies.. Whenever such situation comes, I simply decide not to go to the movie (rather I prefer watching it sometime later at low cost) and I will treat it as a savings that I will use to help someone for whom that amount can be a life saver.. This is just an example. There could be lot of such situations in our day to day life where if we decide to sacrifice our little joy, it can be used to light someone's life, which eventually can bring much more joy and happiness into our life...

What we think as 'little' is really a fortune to someone who is starving for his/her basic needs.

That last little push...

Most of the times, most of the people hesitate to say what/how they feel about something... When some discussion is going on in a group or in a meeting, they afraid to express their views/suggestions…

The bottom line of that fear/hesitation would be the thinking of "what if whatever I say is wrong... what if they feel bad about my views/suggestions/ideas etc..." This is what mostly makes them not to talk... Sometimes they struggle a lot to overcome this hesitation/fear but the words won't come out of their lips... they get into tensed state, and their inner mind would start shivering and most of the times they wont give "that last little push" to say what they feel... Are you one such kind? Then go on reading, may be you may find something useful to you in this post...

Most of the times, you can see that, sooner or later someone would be telling exactly what you thought in your mind which you hesitated/feared to say and their view/suggestion/opinion (in fact, they are your views) is being absolutely accepted and they get appreciated for that... Have you ever experienced that? How many times have you experienced that? Once? Twice?? Thrice??? Does it keep happening to you? Have you ever tried to analyze the situation and find out what exactly you are missing which stops you from speaking in the group or in the meetings?

If you think and analyze more deeply about why you are not expressing your points while the other person is able to express exactly what you hesitated to express, you can realize that,

* You hesitate to talk, because you think that 'what if it is wrong...?' But the other person thinks that 'what if it is right...?'
* You afraid to say your views/suggestions, because you think that 'they may not consider my views/ideas/suggestions...' But the other person thinks that 'they may consider my views/ideas/suggestions...'
* You fear to open up your mouth, because you think that 'what if they feel bad about whatever I say...?' But the other person thinks that 'what if they feel good about whatever I say...?'

Are you able to realize the difference between your thoughts which make you not to talk and the other person's thoughts which make them talking in the group/meeting...? Whenever there is a double mind of "what if", they give importance to the positive side of it, while you give importance to the negative side of it.

Whenever you think, "what if I am wrong?", "what if they feel bad?", "what if they ignore me?" etc, always remember that "what if" is not definite, i.e., it is like "may be"... it is never 100%... whenever you think like that, it means that you are not sure that they will think you are wrong, or, you are not sure that they will feel bad about it... etc... It is just that you think that they MAY FEEL bad/wrong about you... When you have double mind, always give credit to the positive side of it... when you think that "you may be wrong?", remember that "you may also be right..." When you think that "they may feel bad about you..", remember that "they may also feel good about you..." So always give importance to the positive side of your hesitations...

Even then, if you struggle to overcome your hesitation and find difficulty to give that last little push to bring the words out of your lips, let me ask you some questions,
* Won't you talk if you are in a situation that you will become the star of this world if you talk?
* Won't you talk if you are in a situation that you will get noticed by someone you love if you talk?
* Won't you talk if you are in a situation that someone is having a gun on your back and will kill you if you are not talking?
* Won't you talk if you are in a situation that someone is having a gun on your loved ones and will kill him/her if you are not talking?

Won't you talk in those kinds of situation??? Definitely you will talk... So you will talk when it comes to the matter of survival... isn't it? You talk if you are in a situation to survive... Then, think each of your minutes as "moments of survival"... Think that you are not going to survive if you are not talking... then it will give you enormous energy for your last push to overcome your hesitation and to talk...

So what are you waiting for? Don't hesitate to give that last little push... It is never too late to take any effort especially when it comes to the matter of making yourself better and better...

Cheers...